My son is almost 10 and he recently started his “I am into hip-hop now” phase. As a result, the latest CD by the Black Eyed Peas landed in our household and we all had to listen to it and express our opinion.
Trying to be a “go with the flow” mother (at least in certain areas), I happily listened to the music and the lyrics and actually quite enjoyed it. What surprised me, though, was when my son explained that the “E.N.D.” of the title stood for “Energy Never Dies” – what a powerful title that is!
It struck me immediately that everybody should remember this phrase, whatever their situation is. For energy is always around us, moving exactly in the direction we want it to. You keep thinking negative thoughts and the energy around you swings towards negative things happening to you. You make sure your thoughts are positive and re-assuring, and the energy reacts accordingly. This belief was proven to me recently, when all the houses on our streets got broken into, one after another over a period of time. I had decided right from the beginning that it was not going to happen to our house and sure enough, we were the only house left untouched.
I know that life can get tough, even super tough. I know that writing the words about energy is easier that dealing with some situations that life can bring upon us. Remembering, though, that everything is moving and changing all the time should be enough to keep us hopeful that one day the change will touch us too. If, on top of this, we believe this change will be positive, so it shall be.
Go on, do all you can to shape your energy the way you want to and if you feel like listening to some music along the way, the Black Eyed Peas album is highly recommended.
středa 31. března 2010
pátek 26. března 2010
The Easiest Way to Your Fulfillment
To feel fulfillment in our lives is one of our highest aspirations. Quite often, though, the desire to feel fulfilled means we mistake temporary achievements or gathering of possessions for this feeling of contentment.
Sure, it feels good to get a new car. We enjoy it for a while but then the excitement fades away; the new car becomes normal for us and we are off after our next pursuit. The same goes for other highlights: promotion, salary increase, new partner, bigger house.
The thing is, if we are not fulfilled inside, none of the above will make us happy over a long period of time. I believe that to feel truly fulfilled we need to fall in love with our inner selves. That emotion will carry us through anything and we will feel fulfilled, even if we have nothing.
Feeling fulfilled is not the same as feeling good. You can go through a rough day and through a range of emotions and still feel fulfilled! In fact, sometimes you actually have to go through activities that do not feel good to feel fulfilled! In my case, I started kick-boxing lessons recently in order to improve my stamina. Does it feel good to deliver punches and be sweaty within the first 3 minutes? Heck no! Do I feel fulfilled? You bet! I am trying something I have always wanted to try; I am pushing my own boundaries and feel on top of the world through it all!
Fulfillment is about being truly alive. It is about expression of who you really are. Throw away all those “shoulds” and “wants” and “must haves”. Enjoy your real, fulfilled self. It is much easier than you think.
Sure, it feels good to get a new car. We enjoy it for a while but then the excitement fades away; the new car becomes normal for us and we are off after our next pursuit. The same goes for other highlights: promotion, salary increase, new partner, bigger house.
The thing is, if we are not fulfilled inside, none of the above will make us happy over a long period of time. I believe that to feel truly fulfilled we need to fall in love with our inner selves. That emotion will carry us through anything and we will feel fulfilled, even if we have nothing.
Feeling fulfilled is not the same as feeling good. You can go through a rough day and through a range of emotions and still feel fulfilled! In fact, sometimes you actually have to go through activities that do not feel good to feel fulfilled! In my case, I started kick-boxing lessons recently in order to improve my stamina. Does it feel good to deliver punches and be sweaty within the first 3 minutes? Heck no! Do I feel fulfilled? You bet! I am trying something I have always wanted to try; I am pushing my own boundaries and feel on top of the world through it all!
Fulfillment is about being truly alive. It is about expression of who you really are. Throw away all those “shoulds” and “wants” and “must haves”. Enjoy your real, fulfilled self. It is much easier than you think.
úterý 16. března 2010
What is the True Reason for your Actions?
If you are one of those people who has the urge to say “yes” to everything, this is a must-read article for you.
I come across this “yes”-impulse in my clients often – especially female clients; the men don’t seem to suffer from this syndrome as much! This “yes”-impulse makes clients relentlessly volunteer for everything that requires volunteering; continuously care for their kids’ pets; never fail to provide a shoulder for friends to cry on – and only occasionally admit that they feel “overwhelmed”. And is there any wonder, these clients feel overwhelmed? All their precious time is spent on others; there no time left to think about their own lives, thoughts, feelings or wants.
Saying “yes” to any and every request often has hidden reasons. For example, some people over-volunteer because of a desperate need to be appreciated, or because of a need to feel important, or simply because of a need to be so busy that there is no time to focus on the reality of their life.
If you are constantly striving to please everybody else, all the time, and are beginning to get tired of doing so, try the following simple exercise. Every time you are asked to do something, ask yourself before replying: Do I really want to do this? Or do I want to do it because I think I should?
There is a big difference between “wanting” to do something and thinking we “should” do it. There will always be responsibilities, things that we “have” to do. But apart from these core tasks, try to always differentiate between “want” and “should” – this will be the fastest indicator of the real reason for your future decision making.
If possible, from now on, try to commit only to those activities that you really want to do. Your life will be much easier and you will have more fun too!
I come across this “yes”-impulse in my clients often – especially female clients; the men don’t seem to suffer from this syndrome as much! This “yes”-impulse makes clients relentlessly volunteer for everything that requires volunteering; continuously care for their kids’ pets; never fail to provide a shoulder for friends to cry on – and only occasionally admit that they feel “overwhelmed”. And is there any wonder, these clients feel overwhelmed? All their precious time is spent on others; there no time left to think about their own lives, thoughts, feelings or wants.
Saying “yes” to any and every request often has hidden reasons. For example, some people over-volunteer because of a desperate need to be appreciated, or because of a need to feel important, or simply because of a need to be so busy that there is no time to focus on the reality of their life.
If you are constantly striving to please everybody else, all the time, and are beginning to get tired of doing so, try the following simple exercise. Every time you are asked to do something, ask yourself before replying: Do I really want to do this? Or do I want to do it because I think I should?
There is a big difference between “wanting” to do something and thinking we “should” do it. There will always be responsibilities, things that we “have” to do. But apart from these core tasks, try to always differentiate between “want” and “should” – this will be the fastest indicator of the real reason for your future decision making.
If possible, from now on, try to commit only to those activities that you really want to do. Your life will be much easier and you will have more fun too!
čtvrtek 4. března 2010
Are you hiding behind your stress?
When I talk to clients who are stressed, I have noticed they have one thing in common. Actually, they have more things in common but one stands out for me.
They all seem to be running around, doing this, doing that and if they have a spare minute, they decide to re-arrange the furniture or straighten up the books on the shelves, just to do “something”.
At the same time, they claim, they are tired. They have no time just to sit and relax, because if they did, they would earn less money and the competition would snatch their niche, and so on and so on. When asked if that is an ideal life for them they say no but no other life is possible, period. And then they start talking about travelling to new places and taking walks by the ocean and relaxing with a book, while having this dreaming look in their eyes as if those activities were only allowed for royalty.
The trouble comes, when I share my piece of honesty with them, pointing out that they are clearly running away and hiding from something, most probably from themselves.
In all fairness, such is the nature of many of us. Running in circles, complaining all the same, describing how life would be outside the circle and then sadly concluding that we don’t have enough courage to break free. Why is that so? What can be so difficult?
The truth is, it is often easier to make millions than to sit down and admit that we are not happy with our lives. It is easier to train for a marathon than resign from a job that bores us but represents stability. It is easier to complain than break patterns and habits and possibly get a bit shaken in the process.
Yet the truth eventually catches up with us, should it be in the form of sickness, getting divorced, being fired, the forms are endless. When you think about it, isn’t it just easier to sit down, do an honest and thorough evaluation of your life right now and start implementing changes bit by bit?
Look at it this way. When the action comes from you, it is much more honorable and easier than when somebody has to do it for you. Don’t you agree?
They all seem to be running around, doing this, doing that and if they have a spare minute, they decide to re-arrange the furniture or straighten up the books on the shelves, just to do “something”.
At the same time, they claim, they are tired. They have no time just to sit and relax, because if they did, they would earn less money and the competition would snatch their niche, and so on and so on. When asked if that is an ideal life for them they say no but no other life is possible, period. And then they start talking about travelling to new places and taking walks by the ocean and relaxing with a book, while having this dreaming look in their eyes as if those activities were only allowed for royalty.
The trouble comes, when I share my piece of honesty with them, pointing out that they are clearly running away and hiding from something, most probably from themselves.
In all fairness, such is the nature of many of us. Running in circles, complaining all the same, describing how life would be outside the circle and then sadly concluding that we don’t have enough courage to break free. Why is that so? What can be so difficult?
The truth is, it is often easier to make millions than to sit down and admit that we are not happy with our lives. It is easier to train for a marathon than resign from a job that bores us but represents stability. It is easier to complain than break patterns and habits and possibly get a bit shaken in the process.
Yet the truth eventually catches up with us, should it be in the form of sickness, getting divorced, being fired, the forms are endless. When you think about it, isn’t it just easier to sit down, do an honest and thorough evaluation of your life right now and start implementing changes bit by bit?
Look at it this way. When the action comes from you, it is much more honorable and easier than when somebody has to do it for you. Don’t you agree?
úterý 23. února 2010
A Word or Two about Emotional Vibrations
Do you know the following quote from Abraham: “When you emerge into the day, let your vibration be the dominant one. Your vibration of joy, your vibration of growth, your vibration of freedom, your vibration of love, your vibration of all is well. And anybody that is out there vibrating in discord with that – will vibrate somewhere else.”
I love that quote! What I like the most is the re-assurance that if you remain positive and focused on your joyful emotions and on what it is you want, everybody who is in your way will get lost! Isn’t that just great?
I have heard many stories about the dreadful boss being transferred elsewhere or the misbehaving boyfriend finding himself a new girlfriend, thus just disappearing and sparing the ex-girlfriend the pain of dumping him!
When the people whom you no longer want in your life persist, there must be a reason for it. You need to look deep within yourself and find out what is keeping you attached to them. Maybe you are learning something from them? Perhaps your vibrations are good when it comes to everything else but still awful when it comes to this person?
Don’t waste your time thinking up a vicious plan on how to avoid such people or get rid of them, the Universe will do it on your behalf, if you let it. Just remember, even towards people we don’t like we need to send the vibration of love and peace. At the end, they will either accept it and their behavior will become loving and peaceful, too, or they will be removed miraculously from your life. Try it and then wait and see!
I love that quote! What I like the most is the re-assurance that if you remain positive and focused on your joyful emotions and on what it is you want, everybody who is in your way will get lost! Isn’t that just great?
I have heard many stories about the dreadful boss being transferred elsewhere or the misbehaving boyfriend finding himself a new girlfriend, thus just disappearing and sparing the ex-girlfriend the pain of dumping him!
When the people whom you no longer want in your life persist, there must be a reason for it. You need to look deep within yourself and find out what is keeping you attached to them. Maybe you are learning something from them? Perhaps your vibrations are good when it comes to everything else but still awful when it comes to this person?
Don’t waste your time thinking up a vicious plan on how to avoid such people or get rid of them, the Universe will do it on your behalf, if you let it. Just remember, even towards people we don’t like we need to send the vibration of love and peace. At the end, they will either accept it and their behavior will become loving and peaceful, too, or they will be removed miraculously from your life. Try it and then wait and see!
pondělí 22. února 2010
Learn to Shift Your Perception
Everything in life is about perception, meaning, things can be different if we look at them differently.
Keeping this information on top of your mind can be extremely helpful whenever you find yourself in a situation that is pulling you down instead of keeping you up or when your feelings of ease and happiness are long forgotten and you can’t imagine you will ever find them again.
All those feelings of disconnection, loss of direction and not having enough energy to keep us going can be easily changed by a simple shift in our perception.
Let’s say you have been trying for some time to get promoted. You feel you work hard; you have all the competencies, qualifications, drive, etc. Yet the promotion is not happening. Over time your perception of the whole situation might begin to slide towards self-doubt, de-motivation and thinking that your Company or your boss will never recognize you and you are just wasting time working for them.
In a situation like this it is hard to remain positive and believe in a better outcome. Here is where a shift in perception can help. Firstly, you can shift your perception towards experience and ask yourself questions such as “What am I learning here?” One of the answers can be: “By having been in this situation for such a long time, I have developed patience, I have come up with new ways to motivate myself, I have improved my competencies”. Doesn’t that sound more powerful?
Another shift in perception might be towards honesty and you might ask questions such as: “Do I really want this promotion or am I after it just because everybody tells me I should?” By giving yourself an honest answer you might realize that all that time you spent waiting was not lost , because you actually would be happier in another job altogether.
No matter what our reality is, there is always a lesson to be learned. Realizing that is already a first step to shifting your perception the right way.
Keeping this information on top of your mind can be extremely helpful whenever you find yourself in a situation that is pulling you down instead of keeping you up or when your feelings of ease and happiness are long forgotten and you can’t imagine you will ever find them again.
All those feelings of disconnection, loss of direction and not having enough energy to keep us going can be easily changed by a simple shift in our perception.
Let’s say you have been trying for some time to get promoted. You feel you work hard; you have all the competencies, qualifications, drive, etc. Yet the promotion is not happening. Over time your perception of the whole situation might begin to slide towards self-doubt, de-motivation and thinking that your Company or your boss will never recognize you and you are just wasting time working for them.
In a situation like this it is hard to remain positive and believe in a better outcome. Here is where a shift in perception can help. Firstly, you can shift your perception towards experience and ask yourself questions such as “What am I learning here?” One of the answers can be: “By having been in this situation for such a long time, I have developed patience, I have come up with new ways to motivate myself, I have improved my competencies”. Doesn’t that sound more powerful?
Another shift in perception might be towards honesty and you might ask questions such as: “Do I really want this promotion or am I after it just because everybody tells me I should?” By giving yourself an honest answer you might realize that all that time you spent waiting was not lost , because you actually would be happier in another job altogether.
No matter what our reality is, there is always a lesson to be learned. Realizing that is already a first step to shifting your perception the right way.
úterý 2. února 2010
The Ancient Wisdom of Kung Fu Panda
For those of you who have children, you have probably seen and enjoyed the movie Kung Fu Panda. For those of you, who don’t, you might want to consider watching it; it can teach you a lot.
Poor Panda, the main character of the movie, has to overcome a lot, push a lot of boundaries and break many beliefs he held about himself. Along the way he gets a lot of advice from those who are more mature than him and plenty of it we could apply to our everyday life; but from all of that wisdom, there is one that stood out for me.
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift” is a sentence that helps Panda eventually turn things around. I know we all recognize something similar from other places where we might have heard it. For me, though, this particular phrase has a special sound to it and so I stick with it.
It comes really handy in situations when you worry about a certain outcome, even though that particular outcome is out of your control. The statement helps when you are beating yourself about the past mistakes which you can do nothing about any more. And it points out the importance of presence as the only guarantee you have.
Remembering those simple words in your hardest moments is a reminder that all that you have is now and the way you deal with it is up to you. You can start treating yourself with respect right now. You can pick up the phone and call that person you have missed right now. You can apply for a new job right now. You can start treating people with kindness right now.
To accept the above and change your perspective might not be easy but look at it this way. If the animated character can do it, surely you can, too?
Poor Panda, the main character of the movie, has to overcome a lot, push a lot of boundaries and break many beliefs he held about himself. Along the way he gets a lot of advice from those who are more mature than him and plenty of it we could apply to our everyday life; but from all of that wisdom, there is one that stood out for me.
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift” is a sentence that helps Panda eventually turn things around. I know we all recognize something similar from other places where we might have heard it. For me, though, this particular phrase has a special sound to it and so I stick with it.
It comes really handy in situations when you worry about a certain outcome, even though that particular outcome is out of your control. The statement helps when you are beating yourself about the past mistakes which you can do nothing about any more. And it points out the importance of presence as the only guarantee you have.
Remembering those simple words in your hardest moments is a reminder that all that you have is now and the way you deal with it is up to you. You can start treating yourself with respect right now. You can pick up the phone and call that person you have missed right now. You can apply for a new job right now. You can start treating people with kindness right now.
To accept the above and change your perspective might not be easy but look at it this way. If the animated character can do it, surely you can, too?
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